Or “Notes for the Begininning of the 1,327th week of my life”.
How do I know that this is the beginning of the 1,327th day of my life you ask? Because Google Calculator tells me so. Really. Just go to Google and type in “how many weeks in X years.” From there it’s just a matter of counting on a calendar since your last birthday. There’s something nice about the number 1,327. I’m pretty sure I’ve got good things coming to me over the next seven days.
Global Voices won the award for the Best Journalistic Blog in English in the Deutsche Welle Weblog Awards. We couldn’t be happier. It’s taken a lot of work by a lot of people all over the world. Voted best weblog in the entire world is Mujer Gorda, who is actually not a fat woman at all, but rather Argentine author and journalist, HernĆ”n Casciari. I’ve come across plenty of (adoring) references to the weblog in my digging through Argentina’s cyber-ether, but never actually stopped by to read it. Now I understand what all the buzz is about. Though I have to admit, it’s a strange pick for best international weblog, since so much of its genius is rooted firmly in a very Argentine sense of humor and world view. Over the past couple years I feel as though I’ve been pseudo-adopted into an Argentinean pseudo-family of Mariano (my boss), Paula (his girlfriend), and Marina (his mother). Marina and I work most afternoons together and at times I feel like a Jedi student soaking up her Southern Hemispheric wisdom through subtle and complex narratives full of refranes.
I’m not sure if you can really make the argument that any one culture is more complex and layered than any other, but if so, than I’d like to nominate both Mexico and Argentina as leaders of the pack. A friend wrote me the other day:
The Argentine are like the French of Latinoamerica. They think they are god’s gift to civilization but all they have to do is look around them to realize that all they really accomplish with their masturbatory insular pseudointellectualism (interrupted only by their soccer victories) is to preserve their sorry-ass status quo.
That’s sorta taken out of context, but it’s a popular sentiment … and especially from Argentineans themselves (which she is). A popular joke: “how does an Argentinean kill himself? By climbing atop his ego and jumping off.” But even though Argentineans are lucidly aware of their seemingly undeserving navel of the world attitude, they continue to perpetuate it. One second Marina is joking to me about how she hates that her fellow countrymen always think they are so badass and the next she is explaining to me how Argentina can never be lumped with the rest of Latin America because its people are “more european, more artistic, more intelligent, more literary, and more successful.” To this day, the funniest, if not the best, description of Argentine identity I’ve ever read is Diego’s comparison of Diego Maradona, the soccer star, with Argentina, the country that’s made him a prophet.
Over the weekend there was an article in the New York Times called Hello, I’m Your Sister. Our Father is Donor 150. The greatest part of the article is a quote from a teenage boy who introduces his new found siblings as “this is my brother from another mother and this is my other brother from another mother.” The entire article – though it only mentions it once – is basically about this website, a registry of children whose origin was a sterile room filled with lots of porn … a sperm bank. If such a place was the site of your genesis, for example, you hop onto this site, you tell it the assigned number of said masturbator and voila, it tells you who your half-siblings are. This is something that did not happen 10 years ago.
The second most insightful quote of the article after the brutha from anutha mutha thing was by a 16-year-old girl named Danielle:
“I hate when people that use D.I. say that biology doesn’t matter (cough, my mom, cough),” Danielle wrote in an e-mail message, using the shorthand for donor insemination. “Because if it really didn’t matter to them, then why would they use D.I. at all? They could just adopt or something and help out kids in need.”
(Oso’s pet peeve #315: does not like when people either say or write “cough, anything at all, cough.”) And she’s right, what’s the pull of artificial insemination at all if not wanting to see your own phenotype in another body. It’s all very god-like if you think about it.
I have this friend. We’ve been close for quite some time and have pretty similar family situations. We were both raised by single moms who both remarried while we were still fairly young children. We both consider our step-fathers to be our own fathers and call them “dad”. And neither one of us had any contact at all with our biological father. I say ‘had’ because then at one point my friend did reconnect with his biological dad and they still keep in touch. He said it was an eye-opening experience, told me how much they had in common, even small nuances you hardly pay attention to. I’ve seen them together, I’m not one to argue.
But I was pretty skeptical for some time on how much our personality was determined by our DNA. I couldn’t think of any group of people I differed from more than my own family members. When it came to character I used to be much more inclined to the “nurture” argument than nature. But now I’m not so sure. As I’ve seen more and more kids develop from wee tykes to troublesome teens (especially my own sister) it’s become obvious to me that much of who we are is already seeded in us as we come out of the womb.
Finding previously unknown family members isn’t just for the offspring of sperm donors. New DNA-based genealogy services are sprouting up left and right to offer you a glimpse of your genetic past … including, possible relatives. One of the weirdest things to happen this year to the various bloggers I read is when digital divide guru Andy Carvin announced on his weblog that he was told he is cousins with digital divide guru (and co-founder of Global Voices), Ethan Zuckerman. At least once a month I get a short message on MySpace or Friendster from some long lost friend or acquaintance who found my profile. Or I get a message from someone who googled my name and wound up here. But imagine getting such a message from someone who says, hi, I’m your half-brother, would you like to meet. What if you find out that this half-brother was from an adulterous affair your father or mother had? Humans lie a lot, DNA does not. We’re entering a whole new phase here.
Genetic testing is doing more than just reuniting digital divide geeks though. It’s also reaffirming something about our society that anthropologists and sociologists have been arguing for decades: namely, that race does not exist. Brent Staples says it best:
The test results underscore what anthropologists have said for eons: racial distinctions as applied in this country are social categories and not scientific concepts. In addition, those categories draw hard, sharp distinctions among groups of people who are more alike than they are different. The ultimate point is that none of us really know who we are, ancestrally speaking. All we ever really know is what our parents and grandparents have told us.
Or maybe Wally Lamb actually said it best in I Know This Much Is True: people discriminate, penises do not.
I’ll refrain from making such long comments…I just have to say this: I love the way you write these kinds of posts. So, many different topics and subjects seemlessly put together like a conversationāor like someone snapped at plug into your brain and all we hear is your inner-cabeza-thinkings.
I want to read more of your thoughts on the digital identity…because I think discussing it, realizing it, is much like the way literary critics (think Chicago School pondered those canons and such when they were right in the thick of things. Is digital lifeāand thoughtāreplacing, rather mimicking (oooh, mimetic theory) our DNA or gentic behavior? What are we altering with the ability to use technology to construct our very own digital life?
I was hoping to get you to sip some mate with me, but I take it your adopted Argentineans beat me to it.
hola holaaaaa….. que tal? como estas???
Espero que muy bien compita….. tenngo tanto tiempo sin saber de ti, y espero saber de ti pronto.}
Cuidate amigo
Os,
someone sent me a link to zoominfo, a sort of recruiting site that combs the web to find references to your name. try typing in your name.
I did and found out that you’re either a soldier from Hawaii who died in 2004, someone who graduated from the American High School of Lima in 1994, someone who designs decks or the bible-thumping campus director for the UC-Irvine Campus Crusade for Christ. But no GVO, no this site.
So who are you? Really? š
Cool dude.
I will have to check out that google calculator.
By the way……..
I wish all of y’all a Happy Thanksgiving. š
I’ve always been a little more surprised about how brothers and sisters from the same mother and father can be so different in personality. I have three siblings, although we’re often told we look and even sound similar, no one tells us that our personalities are that similar. Yet we were all raised by the same parents and had many of the same experiences growing up. It’s so hard to say which is more important, nature or nurture, and I wouldn’t want to pick one over the other. I would caution you that if you start talking about all people (i.e. women) being hard-wired on way or the other, you’re going to start sounding like HP. And that can’t be good.
Until reading Diego’s discussion of Maradona, I had no idea Argentinos also defined themselves as very egotistic. I thought that was just Mexicans talking shit.
Congrats on Global Voices!
I’ve always thought that it’s half nature and half nurture or some combination of the two. If you’re raised in a messed up environment chances are you’re going to have issues. I agree with what Cindy says but then again there is a chance that parents raise different kids differently. I know in my family my mom, the oldest, was treated like crap by her parents yet the youngest son (about 20 years younger) was treated like if he was the second coming of you know what…
“The hand of God” is still one of the greatest goals of all time…that’s the only reason I have any respect for Diego Maradona…ya know since it was against England
Haven’t been here in awhile – hope all is well with you oso.
I was very pleased by Danielle’s quote. I have had so many debates on the topic of “blood relations” over the years, and it amazes me how often I feel some people are being contradictory in their statements. Danielle’s statement is a good example of pointing one out. I am adopted myself. My oldest son is adopted. When my husband and I went to adopt our oldest son, there were many comments from folks on trying alternative methods to get pregnant, etc. (My husband and I didn’t get pregnant right away and opted to adopt rather than seek medical assistance) They would make comments that “blood” didn’t matter, but then why all the pressure to have blood-related children? I have known people to spend thousands of dollars and years of time trying to get pregnant, but say blood doesn’t matter. Uh huh. My husband always asks folks who say blood is important, or who say it isn’t but show that it is through actions, how much they really love their spouses. After they strongly profess their love, he reminds them that their spouses are not blood related. That has made some folks re-evaluate their stances. The other area of this that makes me choke on my coffee sometimes is when someone uses IVF to get pregnant and then says god wanted them to have the babies. šÆ Like that woman about 3 years ago who used IVF and ended up with septuplets or some insane number of babies. The docs recommended, as they do with all in this situation, to terminate some of the zygotes so that there would be more room in utero. The doctors told her how some of the children would have serious lifelong issues from being born extremely small, etc but she said she couldn’t kill any of the babies because god had given them to her. Uh huh. The two smallest have cerebral palsy and a host of other problems, 2 more had serious health issues, etc. Heartbreaking to me.
We talk of a rainbow world where color doesn’t matter. I’m so happy when I see a parent with a child of a different color. A child needed a family and the parents wanted a child to love. What could be more natural?